Thursday, March 31, 2011

Lanjutan Kisah Puk Akek Keras a.k.a. Haircare Talk

I love going to hair saloons, not just to get a makeover but I get a lot of beauty tips from the friendly hairstylists there.  I am quite choosy when it comes to people who handle my hair.  I do not really mind who wash my hair as long as they handle it with care and love.  Mun yang kasar-kasar ya, jaga la ko.  Aku pun banyak karenah juak.  

As it is with skin care, eye care, body care, etc., there are a lot of things you need to do to get a healthy and shiny hair from the very superficial to the in-depth care.  For me, I do the minimum needed to keep my hair soft and shiny.  Of course, they don't look like the hair of the models in the Sunsilk advertisement but they are nice to see, nice to touch, once broken considered sold.  Eh, got carried away pulak

Rambutku yang sihat.  Hehehe, sila jeles. 

Following the talk about 'Puk Akek Keras' that is Kayan/Kenyah (which one is it, Claire?) for 'Damaged Hair', I realize that a lot of girls are very beauty-conscious but they do not know how to care for their beauty.  Not all of us have beauty consultants mah...  Hence it is important for us to share what little beauty tips we have with each other so that we can expand our knowledge which can contribute to the beauty in the world.  Wow, masalah negara nih!  

First and foremost, to have a healthy hair, we must stay healthy.  Once we get sick, our body will focus its energy to help us recover which means that all the nutrients will be used to get us healthy again.  As a result, none is left for the hair to consume, leaving the hair looking dull.  In fact, our overall beauty relies much on how healthy we are.  The healthier you are, the more radiant you look and the more energetic you are.  People enjoy being around healthy people (in mind and body).  

So remember, if you have a bad eating habit (living on junk foods), stop it.  Eat a balanced diet as recommended by the food pyramid (of course the portion is different for everyone but the proportion should be about the same).  Talking about a healthy lifestyle, there is no escape from exercise and also enough sleep.  Get supplementary diet too if you are lacking of certain vitamins or minerals.  Believe me, once you start living healthy, your overall beauty will automatically improve.  
3NewMessages: For more information on what to eat for healthy hair, click this

Now that we have tackled beauty from its root, we should look at the hair products that we use next.  For hair washing, we must have a shampoo and conditioner, at the very least.  Once in a while, we should give our hair some treatment by using hair mask too.  For all the hair products, always read the instructions on the bottle before using it.  Not after.  Some of us just take for granted that all products are alike and we use it ikut sukati jak.  

For shampoo, it is better to use organic shampoo as they are milder on the hair.  Check whether or not your shampoo has Sodium Laureth Sulfate (SLS) which is what gives your shampoo the foamy quality.  In my opinion (I'm not sure how accurate that is), if you are the kind of person who shampoo your hair everyday, better stay away from SLS.  The reason is that, the foam is very effective in removing oil (that was what I remember from my Chemistry lesson in Form 4 or 5 - the experiment in making soap) so in order not to cause your hair extreme dryness, use shampoo that has no SLS.  Besides, I once read that SLS is carcinogenic.  Either way, you are better off without it.   

Schwarzkopf Bonacure offers a line of sulfate-free shampoo.  It is a really good product and I have been a loyal customer for 7 years.  If, however, your hair becomes too oily and dirty, you could also use shampoos like Total Repair by L'Oreal Paris.  Remember that you don't have to buy all your hair products of the same brand.  Choose whichever that suits your hair and you will live happily ever after. 

After cleaning your hair, make sure to moisturize it with a conditioner.  The steps are really easy.  First, lather your hair with shampoo.  Rinse with slightly warm water to open the pores of the hair.  Then, work some conditioner through your hair.  Use your fingers to comb it through your hair for about one minute (because the label usually reads that the conditioner should stay on our hair for one minute) then rinse off thoroughly with cold water to lock the moisture in.  

It is important to keep in mind not to pat the conditioner directly on your head.  Keep the conditioner at the end of your hair because according to my hairstylist friends, patting the conditioner at the root of your hair or on the skin of your head will only cause hair-loss.  Unless you want to have a shiny bald spot, please follow the instructions above.  

 "I use conditioner on my head every day.  Look how shiny it is!"  :)
(Pic here

The same thing with shampoos.  Do not pat them directly on the skin of your head.  Or else you'll also end up with a shiny bald spot.  Instead, pour the shampoo on your hand and rub the substance with both palm and then work it through your hair, beginning at the end and gradually work the foam towards the root of your hair.  While shampooing, it is ideal to massage your head at the same time to improve the blood circulation so that more nutrients can be supplied to your hair.  

As for the hair mask, you could rinse off the conditioner and then apply the hair mask, or the way I do it, apply both of them together and then just rinse them off together.  Hehehe, malas nak? Mun kawu rajin, polah la sigek-sigek.  Ada ku kesah? 

Another tip for keeping your hair moisturized is to drink lots of water.  Don't wet your hair too often as external water can drain the moisture from your hair and skin because (semua budak Fizik tauk) water adheres to water (daya lekitan atau lekatan); that is why two drops of water can become one!  (I don't really know how to explain it but in Form 5 physics lesson, we learned that.)  Therefore, after washing your hair, make sure to dry it quickly.  Blow dry, pat dry, do whatever you can.  

But here is the thing, when you pat dry, don't rub the towel vigorously through your hair as friction can cause your hair to easily break or split (I heard this somewhere).  Your best bet is to blow dry it.  Use as high a voltage of hairdryer that you can get so that your hair can dry effectively with the minimum exposure to heat.  Only after your hair is completely dry do you start combing it to avoid causing split ends.  Then, you can start straightening your hair with the hair dryer.  And oh, while your hair is still damp (but not drenched with water la), apply some hair serum at the ends of your hair to prevent split-ends.  Then, spray some leave-on conditioner and only then do you start blow-drying. 

Easy, right? I know it sounds like a lot but after you stick to the procedure for two weeks or so, you will do it automatically.  Trust me, I'm one of the laziest people around but these procedures are so easy to follow that it just fell into routine by the third week.   

Okay, the next time around, we'll talk about hairstyling products. 

1NewMessages: I'm such a hair whore.  Well, I got it from my mama :p

2NewMessages: Oh, another traditional tip you can use to make your hair look shiny and lustrous is by washing your hair with tea.  Yes, you read that correctly.  Teh-O la... Tea without sugar unless you want your hair to become a home for the ants (mentang-mentang nak jimat la kan, teh tak habis minum digunakan). Make tea with 2-3 bags of tea (kasi cukup kaw).  Wait until it cools off and wash your hair with the tea.  Dengan berkat dan kuasa Tuhan, your hair will look shinier.  Get ready to flip your hair and tampar muka orang menyampah yang berdiri di belakang.  

The Tale about Birds and Bees and other Animals a.k.a. Pendidikan Guni-guni

Having had "pillow talks" with my juniors made me feel like talking about sex in education.  Do you realize that sex education mostly talk about methods in preventing the effect after sex (e.g. pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases [STDs]) and not the act itself? 

In sex education, we are introduced to the use of condoms (for male and female), birth control pills, interuterine devices (IUD), etc.  These are mainly for prevention of unwanted pregnancies.  But prevention of STDs are trickier because they usually discourage skin-to-skin contact.  What is sex if not for total exposure, right? LOL.  

On a more serious note, should sex education focus mainly on educating about safe sex instead of preventing pre-marital sex itself? Yes, I know what they say about joining the party if you can't beat them.  But this is a serious matter.  I hope I'm not going to sound like a priest or nun preaching about how bad fornication is. 

But think about it, is pre-marital sex (no matter how "safe" it is) responsible? 
If yes, then tell me, would you let your daughters or sons do it? Be honest.  
Or should I just say daughter because generally, people think men are not affected by intercourse (they don't get pregnant, what).  

This is how people (especially Asians) think: 

Got the pic here.

This is one of the reasons why fornication becomes a lifestyle nowadays.  People think boys have nothing to lose for having sex before marriage and that they can get away with it.  This idea has been planted into the mind of children since young.  By whom if not our own parents? Who can blame them when that is exactly how the society thinks?

"Be careful when you go out with boys.  You are a girl.  Don't let them take advantage of you," says a mother to her daughter who is on her way to hang out with some guy friends from school.  

"Don't stay out too late ya." 
"But why did you allow big bro to stay out as long as he likes?" 
"He's a boy and you're a girl.  People can easily take advantage of you." 

Sounds familiar? 
You see, both conversations show that girls are powerless while boys are invincible.  Something is wrong with that picture.  Boys are not superior to girls and vice versa.  Both will be affected.  The only difference is when. 

What parents should instill in their children is a sense of responsibility.  Dare to own up to their own actions.  Before you jump your partner's bones, ask yourself these questions: 
'If she/I get pregnant, will I be willing to raise the child?'  
'Suppose we have a baby, would I want to marry this guy/girl and face him/her for the rest of my life?'
'Am I willing to risk getting STD and risk a whole life of stigma for just a moment's pleasure?' 
If your answer is NO, put your clothes back on immediately!  

People should realize the risk of fornication.  It is like driving a car without a license.  You know that you run the risk of getting caught but you thought, 'Ah, what the heck' and when you do, you realize that there is no turning back.  There is a price to pay.  Driving "safely" does not make it legal either.  Accidents can happen and they do happen.  Suppose if it does, who is to be blamed? 
The driver? But of course.  
The parents who hand the child the keys? You bet.  

 Grabbed the pic here

Somehow, the guilty party always pays the price.  If the child is a minor, parents always end up paying for their child's "mistake".  If underage children are to get married, parents pay the dowries and expenses.  The children, on the other hand, get tied down with a lifetime of responsibility and worries.  That is the price for "growing up" too fast.  Unless you are opting for a shotgun marriage, forget about it.  Even if you are, would you want a marriage that is a result of getting pregnant? Sure, it would make a nice story to tell your grandchildren someday.  

It's starting to sound like a sermon.  But really.  

What I'm saying is that girls should not be so naive as to believe all the romantic poems or talks that guys recite just to bed you.  
Love means willing to take the responsibility of protecting the honour of your partner.  
Love means willing to sacrifice your own lust for the safety (from STD and condemnation by others) of your partner.
Love means respecting your partner and not make them feel guilty with talks like 'If you love me, you will make love to me.'  Bullshit.  Well, if your partner really loves you, what is another five to ten years of waiting?  True love waits, no?

And guys too shouldn't be so gullible as to believe that they can get away with anything.  You don't, okay? Don't forget how Chua Soi Lek got so famous.  

To sum it all, sex education is necessary, especially what kind of effects they cause, not just physically but emotionally.  Who they affect and what responsible sex really is (and I do not mean remembering to put on your condoms), instead of focusing on how they do it (just kidding!). 

Grabbed it from here

Sunday, March 20, 2011

Cerita Moral a.k.a. Moral Story

I met a man on a bus ride home, one Sunday.  I reckoned he was middle-aged and single (there was no ring on his finger). 

Upon boarding the bus, he made his way towards the seat next to mine and said, "You.  You sit inside."  
Astonished, I said firmly, "No, no, NO!" and motioned for him to sit inside instead. 
What a rude old man, I thought to myself.  

Without losing a beat, this man began warming up to me, trying to come up with a conversation; never mind that I had my earphones on (a sign that I didn't want to be bothered). 

"Are you student?" he asked.  
"USM?" he inquired more.  
"Yeah," was my short reply.  Obviously, I wasn't in the mood of making a conversation - what with the noisy wheels and the humid weather which made me felt sleepy.  

But the man would not give up.  He tried again.  
"Where are you from?" he asked.  
"Sarawak," I replied with a sigh.  
'What, this man can't take a hint ka?' I thought. 
"Oh, Sarawak.  Is it holiday now?" 
"No la." 
"Then why are you here?" he asked, obviously, not listening to a word I said.  
"I already told you I'm a student in USM of course I'm here LAH!!!" was what I wanted to say.  
Instead I answered, "I'm studying here." 
"Oh, so it's holiday la..." he mumbled.  I rolled my eyes.  'Paham sik apa ku madah, orang tua tuk!'
"Which year are you now?" he probed further.  At that point, I gave up pretending listening to my MP4 which had already run out of power. 
"Final year," I lied.  
"Oh, final year.." he repeated after me.  

Then he began telling me his life story, about how he had always wanted to pursue a degree in Canada but his visa wouldn't be approved because of his age.  How true that is, I cannot be sure.  I pretended to care and asked him what he planned to do next.  Ignoring my question, he went on about what a lousy country we have.  I remembered thinking, 'If it's that bad, why don't you migrate to another country?'  Semangat patriotik ku berkobar-kobar.  

He then moved on to other stories about how he always have misunderstandings with people.  He asked me why people never see eye to eye with him.  I looked at him and wondered why I was not surprised.  (Okay, I was being judgmental here.  I'm sorry but not at the time.  Hehe).  I simply said 'I don't know.'  

I realized all my answers were short.  Frankly, I have no interest in wasting my brain cells on this man's speech.  He made a bad first impression on me.  And I was not feeling very generous that day.  So deal with it.  

The man told me that he is not a very sociable person.  He hates people.  And he seldom talks to people.  Clearly, I was a different case.  
Feigning curiosity I asked why.  I suppose that is what people always ask when someone makes a statement, right?
He said, "People are dishonest."  Wow.  What a claim.  A proof of ignorance, if you ask me.  

By that time, I was a little irritated with that man.  What right did he have to disturb my harmonious ride home (totally ignoring the fact that I was wearing an earpiece - a sign that I didn't want to be bothered by the outside world)? What right did he have to defile my mind with all the useless piece of conversation that doesn't contribute to the body of knowledge (except for a warning to avoid him the next time I see him)?  

"So why do you talk to me? How can you be sure that I'm honest?" I challenged him.  
He chuckled, the cheek of him!  
"Oh... you!  Haha, you never mind.  You are from Sarawak.  From kampung.  You cannot lie to me mah..."  
Upon hearing that, my blood boiled.  What kampung?  
"Are you sure?" I asked, insulted.  To be clear, it was not so much his calling Sarawak a kampung as the way he said the word kampung that I was angry.  
"Have you even been to Sarawak before?" I pressed on. 
Without any hesitation, he answered, "No." 

So it was just another "coffee shop talk".  A baseless accusation.  

To save my own pride I tried to correct the man with the most tactful way I know how.  Hiding a laughter (for the man's ignorance), I told him about Miri and Kuching (the two cities in Sarawak).  City.  What constitutes a city, you know la.  I also told him a little about my hometown, about its similarities with Penang.  

I should have exaggerated and tell him outrageous stories about the headhunters in Sarawak.  Now I'm regretful.  Then he'll know just how kampung I am.  Sigh.  

By the end of the bus ride, the man actually expressed how happy he was to be able to have a conversation with me.  I, on the other hand, was happy to end it.  

I had never been so happy getting off a bus before.  That day, it never occurred to me how hot the day was, how I wish the bus would stop right in front of my apartment.  I just walked home at a faster pace with each step.  

That day, I made a vow: Never again would I talk to a stranger.  
I have repented.  
I could only imagine what my mum would say, "To si la... tua lang kong, lu mai tia." (Ya la, orang tua madah, kawu sik mok dengar)

Moral of the story:  Do not talk to strangers.  They might just piss the hell out of you.  True story. 

Monday, March 14, 2011

Jangan Pandang Camera

I joined this contest
because Step tagged me. 

So, here's to Step.  

My Entry.  

No offense, Step.  But I hope I win.  Siapa suruh kawu tag aku? Padan muka!  (Walaupun gambar kawu sikda muka.  Bahaha

But I'm quite confused with the "tepi" part.  Three quarters' angle counts as "tepi" or not? 
For example, 

 Aku tak pandang kamera jugak kan...

Sigh.  I don't feel like tagging anyone (cos that means I'll have more competition).  But then again, I am confident.  Wahahahaha.  *Mom, aren't you proud of me?*

I tag Melod, Connie, MauCukupla tiga orang je tau

Saturday, March 12, 2011

Rantings of an Old, Pathetic Woman.

I guess everyone has, at some point in their life, felt alone like an outcast.  As fabulous and awesome as I am, I am no exception. 

A little background here:  I am currently pursuing a Master's degree in educational studies.  I hope I'll finish within one-and-a-half year or less.  That's the dream. 

Well, being a post-graduate back in your old university is not as easy as it sounds.  Especially the majority of your friends have all graduated and pursuing a career instead of a higher degree.  How I miss them~

I tried befriending the juniors but who was I kidding?  Apart from this Kuyat, I am always reminded of how old I am.  For crying out loud, I'm only 25!!!!  Sure, sure.  Make fun of me but out there, people take you more seriously if you are older. 

I mean, when I attend meetings or workshops for my research, I see a lot of "old people" and I mean people the age of my parents and uncles and aunties.  It makes me feel so small and stupid, as if the license for a PhD depends on the number of white hair you have. 

And then, when I attend gatherings or fellowships in undergraduates societies (which I'm told I'm welcomed to join), I feel... OLD.  I didn't think my age would make any difference (I mean, there are people who are older or the same age as me!) but no offense, I am always being reminded of how senior I am, how old I am.  Blah, blah.

Yeah, yeah, who am I kidding?  I should have moved on.  I should have known where I stood.  But I thought things would be different.  I remembered that Maria (not a real name) was never told over and over again of how old she is.  I would rather people say 'Bongok' or 'Paloi kawu' than ever hearing people say 'Eee... kamu dah tua la..' which sounds like a discrimination to me.   

Maybe I shouldn't have tried to fit in.  Maybe I should have spent more time hanging out with my "peers".  Who likes changes? Trying to make a difference will only rock the order of the world (and I don't mean in a good way).  And in the process, it will make me look pathetic. 

Guess this is goodbye, then.